I am 36 yrs old and have had my illeostomy for 9 years. All of my doctors told me to wait to have the jpouch surgery ( if i wanted children), so I did. It took a couple of years to get used to my stoma. then my husband and i ttried for a long time (old fashion way)We tried everything different positions,change in diet,herbs, vitamins,accupuncture,and ect. Last was see an R.E. tuns out that i have elavated FSH and partial blocked fallpoiian tubes. We tried one cycle of IFV using the most aggesive protcol. It did not work and was told tgat with my numbers and tubes it would be a poor outcome but i still wanted to try, I did and Nothing Happened. So next we went to using an egg donor yellling us this would give us the best result. Well we got embryos and I was on cloud nine in all ws had 5 different transfers and the result in all was a negative. My heart truly broken and cant imagine my life without a child and i also cold not imadine living the rest of my life with this ostomy. So after everything has failed i felt ok its now tome too finish the surgery.Well here I am the last option my R.E. gave me was getting another donor with a surrogete.YIKES!! this is not 100% so now considering adoption. I am worried am I too old, the stress of the surgery i am afraid my husband will say were DONE. I am so afraid this will happen, although he did promise me by saying afyer we get through the surgery we will start thr process i hope everyone around me has children or is expecting one.It hurts people always ask why I waited so long abd arent you concerned with your age? Its hard because I know why but knowone else does, I have never told anyone about my disease ans everything I have been through dealing with this. Anyone know any adption agencies in Ohio planning adopt infant up to 2yrs of age. I do hear that this surgery increases your chances of pregnacy because all the removal of the sxar tissue, I still have hope i guess to have one of my own. Do you think i am playing with fire? Somr input would be appreciated. Ty
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