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Mental Kase
Hello Pouchers,

I've got a new GF, yaay me...
Intimacy is racing along a mile a minute, she is very open and exploratory. Problem is that she wants to do some exploring of the pouch -or as near as she can get with her fingers. Now, I'm all good with this except I'm trying to impress upon her that what she will find in there is the most awful brew of condensed crap imaginable. And, that as soon as she breaks the 'seal' so to speak, that horrid bile rich stew will coming rushing out all over everything! I'm afraid she will have to have her hand professionally cleaned because the smell will not wash off easily.... I've been very careful so far and have not allowed any bathroom smells to reach her so she has not even had a preview. Am I being overly paranoid or concerned? Anyone have any thoughts on this?

MK

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Scott FScott FMember
Congrats, MK - this is a good problem to have. If I were in your situation I'd just frame it as a preference - i.e. to leave that body part to its basic function. It's certainly not an uncommon preference, and it's easy to have fun without involving the fudge factory (OK, for us it might be more of a chocolate milk shake factory).
Scott F
Mental KaseMental KaseMember
Scott,

It isn't actually a preference for me to leave it alone back there at all, it's more of a hyper-vigilance on my part to explain the Physiology/Biology of it all because I know that any eroticism that may come will be quickly doused with a foul reality.... I guess, I just don't want a really disgusting event to get lodged in her head...

My low level Pouchitis surely won't help matters either, ughhh...

MK
Mental Kase
skn69skn69Member
Since when are we the only creatures on earth who have foul smelling 'stuff'...my grandkids could race you to the finish line on nauseabond bathroom odours and they are 8 & 10...with perfect bowel functions.
She has probably dealth with this sort of crap before (pun intended) so don't sweat it...anyone who takes the chance of going in the out door must be ready for what lays ahead.
Try fasting for 1/2 day beforehand and give your self a good clean out first.
Congrats on the girlfriend...you deserve the love.
Sharon
skn69
TE MarieTE MarieMember
Congratulations Big Grin

I'd just say no as suggested above as you have enough problems with your pouch and she could actually do some real damage. You don't need to tell her that, it's none of her business plus you don't want her to feel like you don't trust her etc.

Who knows, she might actually be relieved and was just open to the idea Wink
TE Marie
Mental KaseMental KaseMember
Some nice conversation took place and she seemed pleased to be entertained by the odd anatomy of it all. Like Sharon said, a bit of prep helped.

Lots of water and some irrigation. Full cooperation of the Pouch (which is rare for me) made for a good experience, not too much mess and it was pretty dilute so I was happy for that.

We did discuss how I felt when I realized that I'd lost an entire erogenous zone. At time of surgery, way back when, I hadn't thought much about it since I had no clue exactly what state my anatomy would assume post surgery. It didn't take long after take down to realize that the butchering they do in there was pretty ruinous... But, I've also found that all is not lost, just almost all!

MK
Mental Kase

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