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Have things ever been this bad before?
I adopted also, at a time when my UC was quite active. It's a major life change and so very stressful, which of course means potentially triggering of more symptoms. But the anxiety is another problem, separate and apart. I'm sorry you have to deal with both. Still, having that baby will mean you are going to be focusing on what you can control, and doing what you can do, right now. None of us - with colons or without- can be sure of the future. We do the best we can. Having a fit and intact intestine isn't a prerequisite for being a great parent! In some ways your life experiences may uniquely qualify you to raise a child. But your worries are understandable, and maybe not so different from anyone contemplating the awesome responsibility of a new infant.
So - congratulations. I wish you and your family all the best.
I have those exact thoughts too, I fully understand where you are coming from., fully! The best thing I can say is what helps me is to have faith. Faith and prayer, I know that sounds cliche but faith and prayer is all we have since nothing is guaranteed. I hope this helps.
Good luck on the adoption and if you need help emotionally, you can always message me.
Another thing to consider is that there will be people helping to raise the child, like your partner and your in-laws. Can you accept support? I’m one of those people who has trouble accepting help, like I feel I have to be the strong and independent one all the time…but people actually really like helping and I have to remind myself that by taking help I may be giving others a sense of purpose and worth.