Uncomfortable rectal pain and urgency

Maybe you should try a diet like the low fodmap diet and find out what foods are giving you issues because it makes a lot of sense that you are being affected after eating and an hour is a good digestion period.

One month is a very short time.  My doc said a full year to adapt.  You will improve, but the surgical site will be healed before your gut fully adapts to the new plumbing.  8-11 times is pretty good for one month out, and I would have been thrilled to only get up twice at night.   I find that eating does stimulates a desire to go - not the same food already passing through so fast - but activation of the gut.   It gets better.  Even now at 7 months if i am going to be without a restroom for a while I will avoid eating before and while I am out and about.  Try to keep a log for a couple of weeks of what & when you eat then when you go and if you are extra gassy.    

I should mention that I quickly got to the point of only 4 to 6 bm's after my reversal and it may certainly take you longer to adjust. It can be difficult at first for you and your body to correctly communicate. I followed the low fodmap diet later due to the issues you described.

After surgery, I remember having to stop everything and clamping like a steel trap. Very painful . I don't remember how long that lasted but I know I remember a big difference at 4 months and then another qualitative leap at 6 months. At the beginning I would often wonder if I had done the right thing having the surgery. Patience and faith that it will change would be my thought for you....  hope you adapt quickly.