Hi J Moons,
I've actually been able to tense up and strain a bit with no problems, but I'm just worried if the straining will obviously affect the pouch or cause urination problems. I don't think I've had a fissure... I just keep having soreness from the foods I'm eating. How do you know when you have a fissure?
My surgeon told me that I shouldn't strain for more than 30 seconds, but today I have been doing well not to tense up and strain. I've been relaxing but it seems to just drip out when I relax, whereas if I push it a bit, I manage to get more stool out. I have been passing wind alright when relaxing and a little bit of stool passes when I do pass wind. But if I just relax on the toilet, it'll probably take quite a long time before all my stool is passed.
Though, I have to bear in mind, I'm only 2 months post-op... So stools may become easier to pass when relaxed in the near future once everything has adjusted. Is that a possibility? Once my consistency and urgency settles... maybe things will improve in regards to passing stool.