It's been a while since I posted here --I've been busy living life and dealing with two kids graduating and taking care of my mom. My pouch is doing great and my annual upper gi checks are normal. This is about my hubby. He went in for his 50+ colonoscopy where they didn't find any polyps--yay, but they did find a growth less than a quarter inch into the rectal area/opening. They took several biopsies which came back as non cancerous but abnormal cells/tissue.

His GI doctor recommended surgery asap and he went for a consult with the surgeon today. I couldn't be there because I'm out of town for work, but the surgeon scared the crap out of him- talking about how she feels the growth and thinks it's cancerous, that the surgery may take his ability to control his bm's and that he may have to have a permanent ostomy. She spoke about a temp ostomy while waiting for that area to heal after surgery,but was basically pressuring him to get this taken care of now. He was actually scheduled for surgery this Friday, but my out of town work extended thru the week, so it has been postponed to Wednesday the 30th.

Needless to say, my hubby is now scared to death and doesn't want to have this surgeon perform the surgery based on her bedside manner.

I know he needs the surgery, but I need some help with questions to ask the surgeon when I get to meet her on Monday. I'm also going to ask about getting a second opinion from another surgeon, but not sure how the military doctors will take that question.


I know this isn't the normal pouch type thing, but I know the people here are great for support and advice. What are some of the things we can talk to the surgeon about other than 'how many of these have you performed' etc.

Thanks for the help.