@Zoe, I cannot speak for the J-Pouch...I never had one( always been on the table ), and sometimes think "what if" I did( was offered a one step by the CC few months back, Remzi who left the clinic)....sorry to hear about your complications. Personally I can speak for an ileostomy, have had it for 11 years. I have 25% of the colon floating in pelvis- will piggy back on this in a minute( maybe someone can jump in ). However, I can tell you the ileostomy does well.....suck. Also, your anxiety is completely normal, see my username when I signed up years ago( I was 19 ). However, yes an ileostomy is not the greatest, and yes it is a pain( but not in the sense of physical pain ). I can eat what I want....Protein shakes, Peanuts, Peanut butter, fish, chicken, rice. I will give you an example meal:
Dinner
2 Fillet of fish: 60 grams protein- 400 Calories
2.5 servings of rice: Over 600 calories- 20 grams protein...A lot of carbs.
2.5 Servings-G2- Has electrolytes....130 Calories, 34 grams of sugar, 34 Grams of carbs.
So, that is my diet around now for one meal. That's 1130 Calories, 80 Grams of protein, Carbs for days( not really just didn't feel like calculating in head @ 3:40 A.M my time. I know Europe is ahead of time. My old diet I will put below. , which was about anything I could get my hands on......So, I am not trying to convince you to have a surgery or not. I am just saying if you opt for something, and you have an ileo...even just for a few months....I can tell you, I can ALMOST eat anything I want...ok Grapes get me...Just FYI, Beer( so I did shots ), Milk( if I drink too much ) and also...Heads up about protein. I chose to eat egg white powder protein. Also a little trick....add vanilla ensure to the egg white powder protein. I would really watch out for a protein with " Whey" if you supplement. Whey protein is quickly absorbed, hence why Body Builders like it( ahhhh...where is Rocky Balbao when you need him ). However, it is also quickly out.
Now initially, when I first had the Ileo, it was not like that. 1.) I had anxiety. When you have this, it can literally speed up your insides up to 3-5x. 2.) Everything was new, I was paranoid from the shock of surgery and also asked myself, " If I eat more, will it drain more?" - Which I learned, if you don't eat much....the ileo will drain more especially with first meal, if you did not eat anything much do to this question. 3.) Compounded with Anxiety, Depression. I say this because, when I got depressed, I would not each much, some eat more when they are depressed( I am the exact opposite ). So I would say, mental health plays a huge role. 4.) LIVE in the moment, but do not be a PRISONER of the moment. 5.) Sleep.....I remember I suffered with sleep, Hi it's now almost 4 A.M ha! However, I would advise, and this is so under rated.....and needs more forefront. My other problem was lack of sleep.....which sometimes when you lack this, it easily can lead to bad or not clear choices. It could be in a doc's visit, and your so tired, that now your passive with a doctor or make a decision based on angst or are paralyzed in thought with lack of sleep and anxiety. Like an ominous cry for help, battered with impulse decisions to make up for the paralyzed time. Hence, " Paralysis by Analysis." Guilty. 6.) The ileo is new....
Foods I ate when My ileo was new: Back to Basics
I would eat light meals( understand the above writing ) for many reasons. However, what helped was bananas, Applesauce.....Not going to lie, had applesauce with every meal besides Breakfast....that is why I ate bananas. Those seemed to help. Also toast, leaving the burnt part on. Then before you know it, I was able to eat more. Then more frequently.
So, why did I write all that....just to let you know, I never shared your experience in a physical sense....however, your anxiety( I feel we share in some sense) is normal. Also, if you do have an ileo....I know a lot of people do not like it.....however, I can say...I can eat anything, besides a few things, that I wanted. Large portions, small frequent portions.....Does not matter. Also, had this for a 11 years. I do understand your concerns, as I have contemplated the J pouch, with concerns of my own. I don't want to sway you in anyway, I am just saying, if your worst fear( besides what you are going through now ) is an ileostomy....If I can do it, I know you can. If it does come down to that....just think it will be temporary. I will give you a sample meal of what I ate at my height...and also Break down something if you need. I can also put a picture of me next to a Famous Wrestler( I can attach in a reply( you can see the weight gain if you like )....I got to the point where I was adding mass, we had to squeeze us both into the picture. Btw he stands over 6 ft...260 lbs...if your a wrestling fan, he wrestled the Rock, etc. So I went from being really frail at 129 lbs( prob lower )....scary weight....to 207lbs, not now, but at one point. So, I hope this qualms your fear of anxiety in relation to an ileostomy. Again, if it comes down to it, I know if I can...you can to.
If you dial back to where I said I had 25% colon left, just floating. Well, I can tell you the UC never left. Maybe someone can chime in, idk if the same theory applies to a cuff.
***Somethings I would do.....the worst part of an Ileo.......is wear a good hernia belt. The last thing, as I am sure you know, if you get a temporary ileo is to get a hernia. It can be corrected with take down I would presume...but why risk it?
If you ever need help with a diet, feel free to message......if you end up getting an ileo, even if it's just temporary.
Well, I am telling all the things I wish I would have been told. I will post a sample meal( when I was next to the wrestler )....also if you have a question on a specific food, or why I ate a certain way, just ask. The things I would eat outside of the sample,......Yogurt! Even Greek Yogurt( less fat, more protein ). Rices I mixed up from white to brown. It adds variations. Also, ate a lot of all natural foods. I would eat eggs for Breakfast, Turkey Bacon, oatmeal, and even cereal. Lunch.....not much variety, turkey off the bone( has less preservatives )....I never ate Pork. For many reasons....overall health. I would eat all Natural Peanut butter and Jelly. Yogurt....good for probiotics, but if I ate to much of it, gave me some problems. Fish was good, but be careful at first. Also lamb.
Also, whatever choice you make, I wish you well. Sorry to hear about all your problems. Like I said.....I had much anxiety, etc.
3 Chicken Breasts
2.5 Servings of rice
3 Baked Potatoes
- 1 meal.
- Also whatever fruit or veggie. Sometimes applesauce etc.....