Great question and welcome to your probable new future as a “poucher”. Like the others have said, there’s various experiences but I have always had very good results from my 30+ year old pouch. I have full BM control whether awake or asleep. I poop 4-6 times a day like many, but can hold it for hours if needed. Like with holding regular non-pouch BMs, it gets uncomfortable after a while but you can do it. Probably not as long though, if I feel like I need to go (and you will get the “signals” like normal) I can hold things for a couple of hours but not much more than that without being really uncomfortable.
Night is no problem, I’ve never had an accident except once when I had giardia. And bonus, you’ll never be constipated again! 😀.
For me it took an number of years and finding a good gastroenterologist to settle into a normal life with my pouch. I ended up in the hospital a few months after my surgery, from dehydration. That was the surprising part to me, that my surgeon didn’t really say much about. You will dehydrate easily, and it can get bad enough to send you to the ER. I couldn’t stand up. It’s easy enough to manage with plenty of water and occasional sports drinks or supplement mixes (I like Liquid IV).
The other common issues I’ve had, and seen on this forum, are pouchitis and blockages. Pouchitis can be a pain, and there’s various management meds to handle it. There’s a good chance of you being on antibiotics periodically or a maintenance biologic like Humira if antibiotics don’t work. Often the surgery and inflammation also cause strictures, which can result in blockages in your intestine especially if you eat a bulk of fibrous food. And those truly suck- not everyone has this issue but when it happens its excruciating pain. I get them a few times a year and generally am able to manage with Percocet at home, but I end up hospitalized probably every 2-3 years when it gets too bad or I need them to clear it out. If you do need hospitalization, I’ve finally gotten wise enough to refuse nasogastric tubes (horrible) and insist on a balloon scope procedure which can dilate the stricture and relieve the blockage.
Last note- make sure you get a good gastroenterologist to work with before and after your surgery. Your surgeon cannot/will not be your ongoing maintenance doc. You need someone in your corner helping you through issues that arise.
Good luck with everything and ask more questions if you need to! This is basically a forum about pooping so no question is too gross 😀👍