Non relaxing Pelvic floor

I am also a new poucher . Almost everytime I urinate I grt the yrge to go also. Its hard to hold back but after sometime it gets easier. I dont mind if I have to go when I go to pee . As per ky surgeon both the systems are very close and during operation the other is also disturbed a little that leads to this dysfunction . With time it gets back to normal . Do alot of pelvic exercises thats what I did . When you sit on the toilet try twisting your body a little sideways it helps me relax my muscles . Dont worry it'll get easier as time passes.

JesseP22 posted:

this led to painful fissures and also more straining and inflammation in my cuff. After a year I gave in and decided I needed an ostomy to get healthy again. 

I too had those painful fissures due to my pelvic wall refusing to quietly just do it’s job, the only thing that worked for me Is by taking Oxycodone to force the pelvic wall to relax.

now I am able to work and live a normal life.

 The bad part is it took me a year to have to get on a program with a pain management specialist who understood my problem. And I have to go once a month for a doctors visit and they sometimes urine check me, as well as few other practices because of the ability for others to abuse this medication. 

 But this medication has given me the ability to leave my house and to live mostly without pain. I occasionally have a flareup that requires pouchitis medication but without Oxy I would not be able to keep my J pouch. 

Before getting the oxy, did you have to prove that pelvic floor therapy, etc., did not work?

I tried everything medically offered to me.  Probiotics, enemas, special exercises, special diet, fluids only, suppositories, yoga, a medical wrap that wrapped me up from pelvis to chest, and was offered anti depressants.  I didn't want to do the anti depressants, because I wasn't depressed, just in constant pain from the clenching.  Now I am perfectly fine.  Without my prescription, I would be in big trouble.