I had that happen when I was going through three major j pouch surgeries many years ago.  Other factors including a very ugly divorce and getting fired from my management job by certified letter while in the hospital recovering from surgery were involved. Given all that was on my plate at the time, it was understandable why it took a while to re-acquire interest in sex.  Be patient with yourself and just “let it happen”.  Never think of yourself as spoiled goods and present yourself positively in the presence of your partner or prospective partner. Best of luck to you.

Is it your sex drive, your ability to get an erection, or both?  I didn't have any impact from my surgeries but other factors could influence it as mentioned in the last post.

By your photo, I'm going to guess that you are male New_Life?  Just in the last few days, someone else posted on the survey about the impact of a j-pouch on relationships that he developed ED after surgery.  I've also seen it noted in some of the literature on IPAA surgery (probably pretty easy to find if you google "ileal anal anastomosis erectile dysfunction" or something like that).  Women have potential for some sexual dysfunction issues arise too.