Hello Sburr17,
I would suggest ordering some calmoseptine through an online pharmacy. It is AMAZING! I still use it from time to time myself. I use a q-tip to apply it for cleanliness, but it comes in a tube so you can certainly use a finger. Another good tip is to by charmin ultrasoft or ultra strong tp as it seems to be the gentlest out there. I splurged and got a Coco bidet for the house but a sitz bath or bidet bottle by the toilet is nice for those uncomfortable days. At night if you place some calmoseptine on a cottonball and place it between your "cheeks" it helps sooth sore skin. Let me know if you any questions and I will gladly answer them. I am 1 yr out from my colectomy and 9 months post takedown. I also live in MA, I see you do as well. Good luck!!