Tina - Keep positive, surgery could save your life! I was diagnosed with UC at 14 yrs old. Had j-pouch surgery at 22. I'm now 35, living in NYC, working as a professional dancer/choreographer and pilates instructor. I have more energy and motivation than ever before! The surgeries have improved since I had mine, so that is a plus!
My advice is to go into the surgery as healthy as possible. I was in remission at the time of my surgery and I think that helped a lot. I had a complication with scar tissue, and it was rough, and it took a good 6 months to feel good again, but it was SO worth it.
Although this surgery has helped many of us, I think it's important to remember that our body was reacting to something, so it's our responsibility to eat clean, exercise, and get enough rest after the surgery "cures" UC. Our body deserves the best treatment after going thru hell. This disease and many other inflammatory diseases are wake up calls to the state of our health. I have learned to listen to my body and leveraged other resources (pilates/yoga, craniosacral therapy, herbs, acupuncture) - preventative healthcare!! - to keep my body strong. Best wishes!!