Hi.
I am a 35 yo man from Norway. I have gotten a endileostomy after a very aggressive UC. Took about half a year from diagnosis to operation.
I work as a handyman, traveling around on smaller jobs, so i don`t always have quick access to a toilet, but its usually never a very long drive to a gas station or something. But I`m not planning on doing this for the rest of my life, some day i will probably get a office job.
I have been living with my stoma bag for about a year and a half now, and i`m for the most part very happy/lucky. I have very few problems. I mostly eat and drink whatever i want, and i have very few leaks and blockages. And i`m not a person that care that much about how i look, i`m tend to be more focused on things being practical and easy.
But i used to be happy with how i looked, and i`m not able to get my head to do that any more. And i get really frustrated when i get leaks (especially at night), i don`t like that it just does its own thing without my control, and i find it annoying when i have to shower and/or change bag when it is active. And it makes me kind of sad to think that i have to have that thing for the rest of my life.
But i have been checked out and they offered me the jpouch surgery (think they will call me in for the first one in January). I want to want the surgery, I want the bag gone, and i want to feel more normal and be happy with my self again. But i am scared that doing this will make my life more complicated and that i will end up feeling like i have made a mistake. They say i`m a good candidate, and i most likely will have a good outcome, but its not a given.
Do anyone here have an idea if the fact that i have a well functioning bag have any say in if i have a good jpouch? Has anyone done a survey about bag vs jpouch results? I couldn`t find it when I searched at least.
I do know i will change the problems I have with new once. But as long as the day to day function is good, then i can live with a bad day/week every now and then. Any advice/thoughts would be helpful. I think I mostly need someone to bounce my thoughts with, and to hear that it isn`t idiotic to go through with this.