In folks with colons, soluble fiber (like Metamucil) is chiefly used to treat constipation - the opposite of its purpose for J-pouchers. So it tends to thicken a J-poucher's loose output from the ileum (the end of the small intestine), but it helps hold water in the colon a create a softer consistency (for non-J-pouchers).
Bowel slowers, like Imodium, just slow the movement of food residue from the stomach to the J-pouch. It will all eventially get there, though. I use Lomotil (another bowel slower) only at night, and I tend to get a good, uninterrupted night's sleep. I don't really want to slow it down during the day, unless I'm going someplace where using the toilet is a real nuisance, since I want to be done pooping at bedtime. The key, I think, is pouch capacity: as long as your pouch can hold 1/4 of your day's output, you'll tend to go at least four times daily (except for preventive measures, like using the toilet before going out). If your pouch can hold 1/8 of your day's output, you'll go at least 8 times daily. It's key to try to to get to a state in which your pouch has sufficient capacity to let you ignore it most of the time.