Hi JKC- Thanks so much for your response. Since the beginning of my surgery I must be close to a faucet, I use charmin the red one and wipe myself with very warm water after each bm, there are times when I am away from home and not to close to a faucet, usually I take a large plastic cup and fill it with hot to warm water, I find this very soothing, but when things get really bad and I have 12 to 14 bms daily, nothing helps me,unfortunately. My life has not been easy for me, I have had 14 surgeries, six for j pouch reversal ,as I had blood clots, hence, returned to a bag for a year then had a few more j pouch surgeries, also stomach hernias, gall bladder removal etc. etc., at one time I had a port in my arm I needed nutrition when I had the bag got an infection got sepsis and nearly died in the hospital, all my vitals stopped and through some miracle from Saint Jude who I pray to daily, I survived, even the doctors could not believe it, they had told my partner to contact my family since I was not going to make it. Here I am so although things get so bad and I want to give up, I think of my small miracle. I am so glad I found the j pouch group. they have helped me so much, thank you all for your wonderful support.