Happy Thanksgiving to you, too, Stephanie!
I’m really curious to know why your doc thinks it’s time to consider a reversal? Unless there’s more than what you’ve described, my thoughts are still the same. You went through a lot to earn your pouch. Everyone is different but for me, I’ll exhaust all options before throwing in the towel. And I cannot tell you how many doctors failed me by telling me I should be doing better or they find nothing wrong....or sent me away with just the advice to eat more fiber. It was pretty disasterous until I learned through my own research.
None of what I’ve shared with you was offered to me. You’ll find everything I’ve shared in one form or another on this board or the internet. So, while I value specialists, I’ve learned not to let them be the be all end all corner of knowledge. My take is, just because they don’t know the answer it does not mean there isn’t a solution. I’ve found that unless it’s surgery or a pill, doctors fail more often than not in offering solutions that j pouchers have collectively figured out.
I’m glad you’re also getting a second opinion. But please don’t get discouraged if they still don’t give weight to the suggestions I mentioned. Unless you find a pretty unique specialist, they really do not seem to have a grasp on all the things we can try and have given people success.
I’d suggest dropping the rice and potatoes. Those carbs give me terrible bloat, gas and urgency. My protocol was no white carbs, but I’ve now eliminated all carbs because of recurring pouch inflammation and symptoms. Truly though, I’m a believer in no white carbs as a minimum. I’ve recently discovered almond and coconut flours so I don’t feel quite so deprived and tempted to eat things that are disasterous for me. There are so many alternative foods available now.
All that said, my BM frequency has been highly variable depending on whether I behave or not. When my diet is thrown out the window I can end up 10-15 BM per day and miserable. If I follow my largely protein based diet, water and supplements I’ve been at about 5/day. Currently I’m on antibiotics and my disciplined diet. Within 24 hours I was at 2-4 BM/day. I’m not constipated, I just don’t need to go. So I’ve been all over the board with frequency and, like another recent thread about frequency on this board, someone rightly commented it’s hard to come up with the right frequency by comparing to other people. There are so many variables.
Oh....consistency. If I’m dehydrated, it’s straight water. At my best, it’s sort of heavy paste. Most often, it’s somewhere in between. If I feel urgency I may add immodium and it keeps accidents/leakage at bay.
Accidents aren’t uncommon, especially early on and at night. I used to wear Stayfree Overnights, especially at night. Sometimes during the day. I found other brands didn’t give enough length in the backside and the materials were irritating to the bottom with moisture issues. Sorry for the details, but this made a huge difference for me. I used these for years, but almost never need to now. I’d have full accidents at night which, yes, affect sleep. I found the pad plus a towel gave me a lot of security. I lost much sleep over worrying about accidents so these little things really help.
All in all, I’d say give your body time and try different things. There’s so much more info and support available these days. You always have the option of a reversal, which some people do choose because they don’t want to deal with things that others find tolerable or manageable.