Hi
I'm new to this site (and forums in general). I was hoping to get some advice to help me come to my j-pouch versus stoma decision.
To give you a bit of background I am 36 and live in the UK.
Having been previously very healthy and fit I got UC out of the blue in 2011. I suffered with the symptoms for a year quite badly including a couple of hospital stays. Medication didn't make any difference. I ended up having a total collectomy and stoma formation in 2012. Things have been good since then and I am fit and well now. I am also married to a wonderful woman who has supported me throughout as well as having two great young kids. I have also done well in my job over the last couple of years.
I (and my surgeon)now feel that it is time to decide on whether to go for a j-pouch. My basic for and against list is:
FOR
More confidence in my body image
Less worry about bag leaks (occasionally at night and once at the gym - how embarrassing!)
More likely to go on foreign holiday with the family
Would allow me to swim with the kids
I can better fulfil my active lifestyle
I wouldn't have the 'what if I had gone for the J-pouch' question in my mind
AGAINST
Risk of pouchitis
Risk of bladder incontinence
Risk of erectile dysfunction
Soreness around the backside
I was put in touch with someone by the stoma nurses who had a very positive experience. However, I am also aware of a friends relative who had a very bad experience and went back to the stoma.
So basically I'm after others experiences. Did anyone have similar dilemmas? Was it the right or wrong decision? Was life any easier or harder afterwards. In particular I would be really interested to know about pouchitis. Is it as bad as UC (I had really bad urgency and was averaging 20-30 toilet visits over 24 hours).
Sorry for the long winded post.
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