I had a colectomy because of low level dysplasia and 4 DALM lesions. I had no idea I was even sick until I had my first and only flare in a September. Five weeks later, I was told I had IBD and needed a colectomy. I was shocked. I had been quite healthy before that and had never been hospitalized before. I saw top doctors and scoured the Internet in the hopes of finding out I didn't need surgery. I would ask the doctors if they were 100% sure I needed surgery. Unfortunately, I did.
So, I walked into the hospital early on a Tuesday morning feeling fine. It was strange because I knew I was going to leave feeling awful. One of the most striking memories was right before surgery, a nurse put a yellow bracelet on my wrist that said "fall risk." It was surreal knowing I would wake up in a very different state.
When I woke up, I was quite nauseous. I was immediately given anti-nausea medication through my IV and felt immediately better. I didn't have any abdominal pain yet, but my shoulders hurt. The nurse said it was gas pains and heating pads helped alleviate it. While recovering in the hospital, I was given a fresh gown every day and underwear. The pads didn't stick well to the underwear, so I suggest buying some cheap, dark underwear. I didn't realize that I would have leakage, so wearing a pad is necessary while recovering.
I suggest you get some Depends, feminine pads, wipes and a barrier cream for when you return home.
I had a 2 step procedure, and know very little about the 1 step. But if I could have safely avoided the ileostomy, I would have. I was only offered the 2 step.
It has been almost 4 years, and I consider my j pouch a complete success. Although I empty my pouch around 7 times a day, it's a very short experience and it takes under 10 seconds the majority of the time. I always pass gas easily and safely and I could always differentiate the need to empty my pouch and gas. The only issue is I need to take 2 Imodium before bed in order to prevent nighttime incontinence. I have never had pouchitis, fissures or any other issues.
My advice to you now is to relax and think positively. I got an essential oil diffuser before my surgery. I also got acupuncture and acupressure in order to prepare my body for major surgery. (Though that might not be possible with Covid). Don't read too many negative threads because they will unnecessarily scare you. I've read some negative threads after my surgeries that I'm really glad I didn't read beforehand. Beware of threads that say something like "all j pouchers experience ...." We're all different.
Good luck and I would be happy to answer any questions.