You have found the right place to ask questions.  Something like 95% of j-pouchers don't have problems.  This is a good place to ask questions about the surgeries.  People generally go to support groups for guidance and after recovery don't frequent groups as often. There are many here who have recovered and lend their support for others that have questions.  Ask a question or ten and get your discussion started 

I consider mine a success. I had zero issues for 21 years, then developed an abscess/fistula. However, my pouch itself is still looking good.  The bottom anastomosis narrows at times, necessitating dilations in the past 2 years, but overall, again, the pouch itself has always looked pretty good and functioned quite well.  For twenty years, I was the poster child for excellence after J pouch surgery. 

If you really feel like you need a phone call, let us know (though don't post your phone # in an open forum). Arrangements can be made through a private dialogue.