I'm only 1 week out and have a beautiful stoma and am healing well physically. I'm still on the pain Meds every 4 hours. Mentally not there... Feel quilty for missing out on my 4 girls events. My old life doesn't exist, running, eating and drinking wine with my friends. Not sure what I'm suppose to do. In 4 months I have to do this surgery again... My brain gets it, I'm not dying, it's temporary blah blah blah...
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It's a journey, for sure! I look back and can hardly believe how much I learned about myself and others as I progressed through all the stages of regaining my health. While we all experience some commonalities, each of us does so as individuals. Try to keep an open mind. Keeping a journal isn't a bad idea! Best wishes!
I know it doesn't look like it now but things will improve. This process is a long one, a really long one. I thought my hysterectomy was bad. That was a piece of cake compared to these surgeries. Most people thrive after recovering from these surgeries, especially those that had UC. Hopefully you will be able to participate in your daughters lives more after you heal, than before when ill. Good Luck 
One day at a time. Your body is still trying to figure out what just happened to it, Focus on the long term, and listen to your body.
Hey Sharon Im glad you're doing well. You say your old life doesn't exist, but hey it'll be back before you know it, I think it took me a little over a month from the first surgery before I felt physically strong enough to really start getting back in the groove.