I had my surgery laproscopically assisted (4 ports + 5 inch incision across lower pelvis), so my experience would be a little different. I had never had surgery before, so was surprised at how slammed I was!
Tips for hospital:
- Make sure you will have a pain pump at your finger tips when you wake up. I had hydro-morphone. Just lying in bed, I found the pain very manageable with the pump, which I only used for 2 days max, then was OK with IV Tylenol and Torodol. But the pain and soreness when trying to get out of bed is considerable. Just take your time and get help when you can.
- Ask if they can put IVs in your wrist rather than elbows. I had IVs in both elbows and had a hard time touching my face or head for a week (thing brushing teeth, hair, etc.)
- Expect to feel like you were hit by a truck. I could barely lift my arms the next morning, was so weak, so out of it.
- Make sure a nurse helps you out of bed and walks the halls with you the very next day. Somehow, I managed to walk the halls 4 times the first day after surgery. Also try to spend time out of bed sitting in a chair. This helps with deeper breathing and circulation.
- If the anesthesiologist puts an anti-nausea scopolamine patch on your neck, ask someone to remove it the next day. It causes blurred vision. I couldn't see for 3 days, and no one could figure out why.
- This might not be such an issue for a guy, but I needed someone with me once the catheter was removed to help me get to the bathroom. In general, it's good to try to have a friend or loved one around to help out, since the nurses can't be there all the time for all your needs.
- Try to start emptying your pouch on your own at least by the second day. I hated doing it, but also hated when the nurses spilled anything on my bed or gown!!!
- I packed ear plugs and an eye mask which helped me rest and block out all the noise!
- My skin became extremely dry and chapped from the dry hospital air. The second time around I brought a tub of aquaphor and kept it at my bedside.
- After 6 days, I could not stand the ugliness of the hospital, my eyes needed relief. So the second time around I packed a collection of my kids' artwork and pictures, and my husband taped it on the wall directly in front of me when lying in bed. It helped tremendously!!
Tips for home:
- Really try to have someone take care of you in a really dedicated way for a minimum of 1 week, preferably 2. Between my mother and mother-in-law, I had about 2 weeks of help. I cannot stress how important this is. I was so weak that just making a cup of tea was tremendously draining. I really needed someone to nurse me back to health, including making sure I was eating and helping to prepare meals and snacks and serve me.
- After our moms left, we had friends from our community (largely from church) deliver meals to us for about 3-4 weeks. Also a God-send. A friend of ours coordinated the meal sign-ups and deliveries by using a website developed by another friend: mealmein.com.
- I felt incredibly weak, dizzy, light-headed, a little nauseous. I couldn't figure out why, had never felt that before. And my eyes stared sinking in. Seemed to be dehydration, which I was then treated for, but I was peeing a lot. Later, I realized that part of it was the need for more nutrition. My body needed to be fed, but I didn't feel hungry and wasn't recognizing the hunger signals. Plus I was afraid to eat and fill the bag. Once I realized this, I started eating more, like a snack once an hour, and felt much better.
- Drink stuff other than water for hydration. I hate gatorade and sugary stuff, so drank small amounts diluted, herbal teas, coconut water, and Almond Milk mixed with some Ensure (which is too sweet for me by itself).
- Try to get out and walk every day.
- Sleep a lot, naps all day, as much as you need!
- I had major difficulty peeing, probably due to some minor nerve damage. It took 6 weeks to begin to resolve. Just something to be aware of in case it happens to you. (I'm still having issues post takedown).
- It took me 7 weeks to really feel normal again. Of course it was gradual, but at that point I didn't collapse in bed in exhaustion after an outing.
- Stoma management is a whole 'nother topic...
Best of luck!