Hi, I know exactly how you feel, the exact same thing has happened to me! Started as a bartholin cyst and developed into a RV fistula. Was one of worst days of my life when i figured out what was going on. I haven't had anything done to it, my surgeon has just checked it out so we know what we are dealing with, and have discussed all the options, its quite managable atm so I'm not planing on doing anything drastic. It is quite small and I'm finding is getting less and less annoying as time goes on. I still have bad days but sometimes I find myself sorta forgetting about it which I never thought would happen. It's the uncertainty that gets to me, not knowing what's going to happen. Anyway, feel free to pm me if u want to ask me anything
goodluck, we all need it lol
Lou