Everyone is different, but I have found that making sure your butt is absolutely clean before applying Calmoseptine following a bowel movement is imperative. We bought an electric bidet toilet seat which sprays water on your anus after you pass stool. It also has a drying function. Even so, I asked my wife to check for any residue that the bidet did not catch. So she takes a moist cotton ball and swabs me down ao that there is nothing at all left, not even a bit of colored moisture. At this point I am dry and then she applies a bit of Calmoseptine lotion on a q-tip to the two sides of the anal opening. I put a cotton ball or two on top and then slide my underpants on and I am good for a few hours. I also find that where I sit makes a difference--no hard surfaces! We went out and bought three kitchen seat covers for our wooden chairs and it helps. I am much less sore. When I go to work this coming week I am going to wear a Depend Real Fit--and actually bring a couple extras just in case. I am determined to get healthy and resume normal life!

One other tip on food--I find eating salmon and rice at night and pancakes in the morning really help. The pancakes seem to delay any bowel movement until late morning and the rice tends to make my bowel movements less painful.
I also take Metamucil three times and day. A few times a day I will take my prescribed pain med which is Norco. As others have said, not only does this ease pain, but it also tends to slow down the frequency a bit. I will repost again as I learn more tips!