Couple recommendations for surviving the hell:
- portable bidet: I've used this for a year at home. I use it every time except on rare occasions (see below).
http://www.amazon.com/gp/produ...00_s02?ie=UTF8&psc=1- Balneol: For when you're not at home, you don't want to carry around the portable bidet, this cream is a lifesaver. Put some on some toilet paper before wiping and it completely protects from the abrasive paper. Sometimes I use this at home too when my bottom is so sore that even the pressure of the water from the bidet is too much.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/produ...00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1- Calmoseptine: After going, I apply with a q-tip. It helps sooth just a bit but no silver bullet.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/produ...00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1- Low-Fodmap Diet: When I switched to this diet I noticed a market improvement. I could stand living again, but again, not a silver bullet. I never would have thought to eliminate milk but it seemed to help quite a bit in the early days. Eliminating gluten, garlic and onion I think also helped a lot. I still follow this diet generally.
- Pepto Bismo: This seems to calm things down and help me quite a bit, particularly calm down my pouch. In the beginning it seemed like a wonder drug. No doctor prescribed it - I picked up the tip from this forum. Now I take about 1 pill a day broken up into 4 tiny pieces and taken with meals and at bedtime. Seems to be helpful. If I take too much it can constipate me, which only makes BB worse!
- Dealing with gas: I realized over time that a lot of the times when I feel urgency it is gas putting pressure on my rectum. I often am not able to release gas standing upright. If I lay down on my stomach and press in on my stomach with my fingers, I can relieve the gas. Doing this seems to help me go less, which helps avoid more pain in the bathroom caused by BB.
Hope some of this helps. It's very hard what you're going through and hard for anyone who is not in our situation to understand, even doctors. You're not alone.