Hi Holly,

I know just how draining it can be for us parents getting through the normal teenage transition so I am in awe as to how well you have coped thus far!

Chris may be nearly 21 but he has been deprived of 4 years of normal teen life (and you've been dragged along for the ride) due to all his health problems so obviously this has had a huge impact on both of your lives.

I'm glad that Chris has agreed to counciling. Hopefully this will be the turning point on the emotional turmoil you are both going through right now.

Hang in there, you are stronger than you think!

Take care and keep coming back here to let off steam.

Shell

Holly, you are right that it's great you have a healthy pouch, but you need to keep it that way, and all this stress you are under right now can't be helping matters. I'm glad to hear Chris agreed to go to counselling, and while it certainly won't be an overnight process, I hope it helps in the long-term. I struggle with anger and a quick temper too, so I can commiserate there. I had a great deal of anger towards my father for many of the years I was sick, as he had a short stint with IBD when he was a child (nothing near the extent of mine) and "passed" the illness along to me, or so I thought. I was younger then (about Chris' age)and when you don't understand why something is happening, you just want to put the blame on someone. Maybe he's doing this with you; if that is part of the reason, hopefully talking through some of that in therapy may eventually help. I wish there was a quick fix for you...you definitely need a break.

Hi Holly,

You sound like a great parent!! So, do not beat yourself up because your son is frustrated with his reality and is lashing out. I am not a parent but I have been on the other side and lashed out with hurtful words when I was at my limit.

I am glad that the situation has simmered down a bit and perhaps Chris can feel physically and emotionally better about all that he has and is experiencing.

Wishing you both some peace.

Lala

Thanks for your understanding and kind words.

Holly,
I have read this tread since the start and I am sorry I don't have a solution for you. I just want you to know I'm thinking about you and Chris. I hope things get better.

BUDMAN

Holly,
I am glad things have simmered down a little at home.
The Cipro may indeed be responsible for Chris'es behaviour especially as he was sensitive it before. I found this link showing that caffeine potentiates its effect too.

http://www.prostatitis.org/ciproeffects.html
All my Love
Ewa xxx