I'm sure bill has to do what is right at times, but I have recieved hatefully nasty whispers from folks not like me speaking the truth with in guildlines but I also undertstand that day you may be upset and step out of the guide lines some of us are not going through a fun time when we have a bad day some of us come here etc maybe not good but it is a support group . I also would like on coppers defensive he is going through alot of the same problems as my self and some of them are not easy. when people post against him or someone else when we express our selfs its dishearting on a support group site . I to found my self waiting to stop coming here because of other folks so I know how he feels.

When one goes through the same problems as we had and then add many more and the come here for support to get shot down its liek what sthe point?? Some of you folks arent doing that abd or even great keep in mind some of us are doing very very bad.

Also when a man goes through ED its taking your life away thats a fact... Anyhow this was not pointed at bill but to others that need to think before they post when they are doing well because some of are not and may be upset i'm sure this is more about other things on this site not just the 2 post deleted .


Copper keep in touch your one of few people who understand what we are truely going through deep in side. bud

Thats my 2 cents be well folks have a good day.

I emailed Copperhead today,,,he says "hi" to everyone.
Lorip

Just to clarify...Copper asked me to revoke his membership and delete his profile and posts. I tried my best to get him to change his mind, as I did once before, but he insisted.
I think there has been some great points here, especially by Jan and Jill.
I have let this topic continue and have explained my point of view because I think it gives good insight as to how I run the site.
Best,
Bill

Jeff, I understand where you are coming from. When you are feeling wounded already, it hurts even more to be told you have misstepped or to have a post deleted. This is why compassionate communication is important. If you think a post goes over the line, PM the author and discuss it in a friendly way. While we all do not have the same disabilities, we have all gone through the same or similar experiences to get where we are and should be able to empathize with those who still suffer. That means that nobody gets a "free pass" to post whatever they want.

Often when we write in the heat of a passionate response, we also forget to step back and look at it objectively. Look at what you wrote before you hit that "post now" button. It's always a good idea to go back and read your post after it goes up. You can then go back and edit it if on a second look, it is not appropriate or is unclear. I do that all the time (clean up my typos, clarify my statements etc.). It seems that people are more apt to say things on the internet or PM than they would in person or over the phone, hiding in their anonimity. That's a pity, because we should respect each other here just as we would in our own living room or in a public venue.

If you get a PM from somebody about a post of yours, try not to get too worked up about it. See if what they say has some merit, and try to be reasonable. Of course, if they are sending you profane or vulgar messages, be sure to report these to Bill J.

For the most part, this site works very well and most of the people are very polite and very supportive. That is what the focus should be on.

Thanks Bill for letting the topic continue, so we can discuss how to best get along and avoid future issues.

Jan