Hello all,

After years of illness and being single I thought I would try internet dating. However before I post my profile I would be very grateful if you could read what I intend to post and give me your opinions and advice!

You can see what I intend to post HERE There are also 7 pictures and I would like your thoughts on those too.

Please be totally honest I will not be offended.

One final thing, how old do you think I am?

Thanks very much,

John

It looks great to me. I can't think of a thing to change. And I have no idea of your age - I've never been able to guess age. Well, unless it's a newborn.

Good luck!

kathy

Hi John,

It looks good. Maybe you could add more variety to some of your pictures, eventhough there are 7 pictues - really there are only two.

I have a friend who had a lot of fun and some luck with internet dating.

Best of Luck to you.

I think you sound super exciting and fun to meet. I love the rock climbing pictures. and what are you 35ish maybe? that's my guess.

I would guess early 30s. I think your pics are great because they give an indication of your interests.
I actually think online dating is great because you get a chance to get to know someone through the computer where you feel more comfortable asking questions, not as nervous.
Best of luck!!!

Thanks for the replies. I will post my profile and see what happens!

John

PS 37 years old, thanks for the compliments!

Hi John,
The link didn´t work when I tried to access it, but I found your posting by accessing the web address directly. First of all I think you´re very brave posting the pictures of your stoma and takedown. I had my surgery done in two steps, and when the takedown was done, they just pulled the stoma hole together like a purse drawstring and I wasn´t supposed to clean anything, so it looked very different to yours. Which makes me understand better why I can´t always picture the scenarios other pouchers describe. Procedures vary much more than I was aware of. I hope you´ll have a good time on the internet dating path :0). I have several friends who´ve had a great time dating this way. Sure beats sitting at home feeling low! The only thing that strikes me about posting the stoma pictures, is that personally I look back on that time as something I had to go through, but that´s behind me. Maybe it´s ´cos I hated my stoma and am really happy with my pouch, but I sort of feel like I´ve emerged as a butterfly after the horrors I went through, so I want to revel in that rather than look at how I was when I was struggling. You may well not feel the same about your stoma, and maybe feel it´s just as much part of who you are as your body is now, in which case I can understand why you´d put as many pictures of it there as you have. Am I explaining myself really clumsily here? I suppose what I´m getting at is that if I were reading your profile and considering dating you, there´d be so many other things about you as you are NOW that I´d be wanting to get to know, and your past would be something I´d ask about later, as we got to know each other. So the stoma pictures might be too much info too soon. I´m just giving you my totally honest feedback since you asked for honest replies! No-one else has commented so it´s probably just me, but I´m throwing in my opinion for what it´s worth :0)
I´m 37 too, incidentally, and I´m not shy about telling people what I´ve been through either, but if I´d still been out there dating, I think I´d want guys to get to know ME first, then the details of the surgeries later (if they were interested in them). Anyway - good luck! Have a great time :0) As a good friend of mine would say: Get out there and swing yer pants!

ps. I liked the cute kiddy picture of you in the garage :0) Reading your profile was not unlike reading about my brother - mountain biking and car addict. He has a 1968 Alfa Romeo Bertone which he has spent about 15 years lovingly restoring and clucking over.

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Soph,

Thanks for the reply and the comments, the honest ones are much appreciated!.

What you were actually were looking at was my UC page on my personal website. People from the dating site will not see this.

I have put my profile below. Comments would be welcome as so far I havent had much success.

Thanks very much,

John

PositivelyActive
This Is So Exciting!

Pack some things I am taking you away for the weekend, I am not saying where, it’s a surprise! Are you coming?

for fun:
I prefer to participate than watch. I love exploring whether this is on foot, bike, car or climbing rock. I also enjoy making and creating. Time relaxing is important, an opportunity to reflect, talk & tell stories of the past exciting times.

my job:
Crash Cars ... yes really!

Income ... Adequate.

favorite hot spots:
Going out is all about socialising which means talking. It doesn’t matter if it’s a country pub, city bar, beach or the top of a mountain.

Travelling is fun, planning, experiencing new cultures, the excitement of the unknown and memories.

favorite things:
The quietness you only get with deep snow except for the crunchy squeak of our footsteps.
Freshly baked bread, still warm with butter.
I also have a fondness of fires! They give such atmosphere to an occasion.
Quality fresh food.

last read:
The Angels Weep by Wilbur Smith. I have read quite a few of his books and he tells a wonderful story full of colourful characters, suspense and history.

I always have a few magazines on the go too.


I am motivated, active, creative, reliable, trustworthy and love to push limits, whether that is on my bike, climbing, car racing, design or rules (but without inconvenience to others). I have lots of energy and tend to give 100% but then like to rest and reflect. I have many good friends and a few who say I am the best friend they have ever had. I am tidily presented but do not care for designer labels and wonder why people spend loads of cash to effectively advertise a company’s product. However when it comes to equipment and clothing for my hobbies money is not an object, I buy the functionally best there is. My work is important (well it gives me cash to have fun) but it doesn’t rule my life. Last year I had over 8 weeks off. I do not own a TV but when I am on my own the radio or music is always on. I like to help others and write.

My ideal date (if you don’t quite match don’t worry) will have a positive outlook with a can do attitude and a willingness to have a go without complaining (too much). You will enjoy life and be active. Willing to accept who you are and the way you look and are happy without make up but stunning with a little!

About Me
Hair: Light brown

Eyes: Brown

Best Feature: Butt

Body art: None

Sports and exercise: Cycling,
Dancing,
Running,
Walking / Hiking,
Auto racing / Motorcross

Exercise habits: Exercise 1-2 times per week

Daily diet: Keep it healthy,
Meat and potatoes

Interests Camping,
Cooking,
Dining out,
Music and concerts,
Playing sports,
Travel/Sightseeing

Education: Graduate degree

Occupation: Other profession

Income: No answer
Languages: English

Politics: Some other viewpoint

Sign: Don't display my sign

My Place: Live alone

Pets I have: No answer
Pets I like: No answer

My pictures are HERE

Hi again John,
Well it certainly helped to access the right profile, hehehe! This was much better...entirely different, I´d say. Can´t understand why you´re not having much success with it, to be honest. There isn´t anything I´d change if I were you; in my opinion, you come across as an active and outgoing person who´s full of confidence. I don´t know how long your profile has been "out there", but maybe it´ll just take a little more time? Or you should try a different site/agency? I don´t think it has anything to do with what you´ve written or who you are. Good luck :0)

If I wasn't happily married I would love to go out w/you, You (still) sound like a super fun person who is really adventerous and exciting and outgoing/outdoorsey. I like the pictures you added. Good Luck

I agree with jillyian
Remember too, that some people may be interested in your profile, but need time to pluck up the courage to respond. It´s not long since you posted the profile, right? Hang in there

John,
As a younger woman I can tell you that I like the action photos of you outdoors the best. The other three I would change. Instead of head shots of you just looking straight at the camera you should do something at a different angle. I should warn you that I worked at a photography studio for years! Maybe you should have some professional photos taken. Something with you leaning on a balcony ledge looking out or leaning against a porch railing...not looking at the camera. I would go for something more artistic, maybe even in black and white. I should get your email address and send you some examples of what I'm talking about. The fact is you have to sell yourself a little more. While your profile sounds great; you want your pictures to have more pizazz and offer the ladies some eye candy Of course opinions are like bum holes... everyone has one.

Not to be rude, but I personally would never talk about how much money I make. If you make a lot of money, that'll eventually be evident when you started dating. And even then, I wouldn't make such a big deal out of it. In the grand scheme of things, do you really want someone who places such a huge emphasis on how big your wallet is? Yeah, yeah, people say that's an important crieria for most women. But an equally important criteria usually is a guy with a lot of confidence... not saying you don't have it... but talking about your cash flow isn't a good example. Good luck.

Good point. I don´t like it if people try to impress with wealth (not saying you´re doing this, though). Probably explains why all my boyfriends have always been flat broke, haha
I actually get quite ticked off when people say all women/most women want a guy with money. A lot of us want an honest guy with a sense of humour, a warm heart and a good brain. (And if you happen to look like George Clooney, that´s no disadvantage, hehe!) To hell with the cash flow.

Soph-
Okay, the part about "most women", what I meant to say was "a lot of women" or "a great deal of women". So,"most women" applies to the population of ladies here in New York City. It's not even a perception; it's a fact. haha. Spend a few days and nights here, doing the 20's to 30's social scene, and you'll agree as well. If not, your plane didn't land in New York, it's somewhere in Canada. ;o)

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