Thank you for all the honest comments and advice.

My profile has been up for about 3 weeks and I have had around 50 views. I have contacted quite a few people and recieved 1 positive response with whom I am exchanging emails. I have also had one person approach me, again we have exchanged a few emails.

I would be interested in seeing a few example pictures Olive Oil. I will have to try to get some taken.

Eric, It is interesting how you interpreted my comments about money! The intention was to make it sound that I save money else where so I can enjoy my hobbies.

Once again thank you

John

John,

I think your profile looks great, it is well written and you sound like an interesting person who would be fun to meet! I understood your comments about money the way you intended them - you are not hung up on it but use it well to suit your purposes.

Stacy

Yes, after reading it again, I noticed that... It's just that any mention of money is taboo. Even though you weren't necessarily talking about the thickness of your wallet, mentioning "cash" in any capacity could be misinterpreted. It takes away from what the women you want to meet should be focusing on, and those are the real virtues people posess, like confidence, integrity.... humility, etc. " However when it comes to equipment and clothing for my hobbies money is not an object, I buy the functionally best there is. My work is important (well it gives me cash to have fun) but it doesn’t rule my life. Last year I had over 8 weeks off." No offense, but I'd chop that sentence. No one cares. Maybe just keep it down to, "I love my hobbies and a lot of my money goes into enjoying them". haha. Then again, who cares what I think.

Hi Eric,
Hmm...interesting posting about dating in NYC! I thought you were quoting other people´s warnings about women being "out for the money" - turns out it was your own experience! The plot thickens, haha Nope, haven´t a clue about the social scene in New York City, so I´ll take your word for it Have to admit I haven´t been "out there" dating since ´96 when I met my husband, and that was in Norway where gender equality is taken for granted, so I think most guys here would run a mile if they felt they had to impress a girl with their financial standing. This is a place where chivalry has evapourated! (Sorry, fellow Norway-dwellers, it´s true.) There are always people who take their liquidity very seriously, obviously, but in general women here aren´t the gold-digging type. Norway was a very poor country until the ´70´s, so the old, simple approach to life is still going strong - it´s considered vulgar to flash your wealth or ask about other people´s. (This is a generalization, I know.) I´m ashamed to admit my knowledge of the US is based purely on impressions from watching Oprah, series like Sex in the City, Grey´s Anatomy, etc.etc. etc.! So please forgive me for my ignorance and possibly very misled impression, but it seems like the traditional gender patterns (guys paying for the date, guys being the main breadwinner while wife stays at home or works part-time only) live stronger in the US than over here. So....if you want to be wined and dined and impressed by a guy, go to NYC? Sounds like it beats being handed a kebab on the way home in Oslo, hahahaha!
ps: sorry about this major digression from gut-speak, folks, but this was a funny and interesting train of thought. NYC girls, what do you think?

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Hey John,
Forgot to say: good to hear your success with your profile Have a good time dating!

Ha Ha Eric,
As a mother of a 20 something good looking, intelligent daughter in NYC I can tell you that she and her group of friends are NOT in it for the money. (PS Where did I, a good Jewish mother go wrong?
John, I loved your profile and the internet works, last year I went to 2 "internet" weddings. Have fun!
Susan

Susan-
Speaking from a half Jewish guy gerspective (mom's Jewish, dad's Italian), it sounds like your daughter is part of a very very evolved, yet rare group of twenty something Jewish women. I'm 35; I've put a good dent in the Jewish singles scene,and let me reiterate - Rare and Evolved. Good for them. I'd love to find a gorgeous and intelligent Jewish (or any gorgeous and intelligent woman) like that over 28. Although, I'll probably have to wait until Hannukah, considering I won't be ready to drop my drawers until a few months after my take down surgery.

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Just thought I'd pop into to say hi and let you know that I too was new to internet dating. It has worked out very well for me as I have met a wonderful man who adores me and is wonderful to me and my children.

Your profile looks fine, wouldn't change a thing except the money thing. You don't want to be wanted for your money do you?

Wish you the best of luck!

Alex

John,

I think your profile was put together very well. You were able to summarize with few words (and some pictures) a lot about yourself. Hopefully, this insight will draw in the people interested in your personality and put off those that wouldn't be a good fit. Overall, I think it's a good profile.

And I think the way that you phrased your occupation and income was good. You communicate a lot about yourself with that and yet you are vague enough to avoid any problems.\

Good job and good luck!

PS, how has your pouch been behaving? It looks like you are quite active, so I assume that you aren't concerned about it or held back by it?

Rick

Success!!!

The internet dating was actually a sucess and I am now dating a wonderful (of course I would say that!!) girl

I had given up hope with the internet dating after no success but she contacted me with hours of my subscription left... and it went from there

John

PS I was totally honest about my past UC history and current pouch from the first few emails.

Hi John,

Congratulations! It sounds like you have found a keeper, especially if she is totally unfazed by your past medical history. She's a lucky girl to have found you too! I hope you and your new girlfriend have a wonderful relationship/life.

Keep us posted.

Shell

Great news! I went last year to 2 "internet" weddings. It works!
Susan

Hi John!!
Never posted before but I've read all the posts. Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im sooo happy for you!!!
and BTW, the profile was great! and you were honest!!

im so happy!

Well, didn't catch this one until now but DARNIT John......... I was thinking if you were out there long enough...... (LOL)

Actually, I'm THRILLED to hear you met someone. I'm surprised by the number of people I know who have had internet dating luck. Long term luck also.

Just in comment to the way earlier posts---- if a person (man or woman) doesn't want you for YOU (skinny wallet, fat wallet, healthy, sick, book worm, athelete etc.) they aren't worth the effort. I was a "strange" girl and never dreamed of a normal prince charming and a big wedding rather a faceless person with character traits that meant something to me.

Pretty surprised when it came in a package 15 years older, divorced with a very skinny wallet. But he finally put a face on all my dreams. Message to anyone out there looking, keep an open mind. Almost 20 years later, he still takes my breath away (one minute and makes me want to scream the next but to me, my faceless stranger had to challenge me too).

Dennis early on when talking about his UC told me "sometimes love isn't enough". ANd I told him "sometimes, it is." Thru the years I've found ALOT OF TIMES THAT'S ALL YOU HAVE.

John B. - Best of wishes for you! Everyone deserves to find their true love. And WHO would have thought that internet thing would be so acurate? I'd love to know their algorithim!!! (yeah- geek to the bone.)

Hope anyone who is reading this and thinking there's no one out there for them thinks 2x.