Hi,

I am 25 and going in this friday for a total histerectamy. I know some of you know me and all the problems I have been having. I have been meaning to post on here but haven't been on the computer much because I been in alot of pain. My husband and I seen a fertility specialist a month ago. My obgyn and G.I doctor wanted us to go and find out what our options are. Well, I have been in and out of the e.r. because of the severe pelvic pain I have been having. We not only found out both my tubes are totally blocked and dilated but I have endometriosis very bad and I also have polycystic ovarian syndrome. So he gave us three options and talked to us about all of them. He asked us if we wanted biological children (IVF) and we have always wanted our own but we really have our hearts set on adoption now. I have been in so much pain I mean it is constant and is really affecting my daily life. So the doctor suggested that he would highly recommend a histerectamy because I am in such a mess in there. I am still having alittle bit of a hard time with it as I have always hoped we would just get pregnant. but I know that one day we will adopt a beautiful child who really needs us. And my husband has always been very supportive which is a great help. I know this is the right thing to do as we have talked to several doctors. I will actually have two surgeons in there one will be guarding my j-pouch. They said they will be in there a minimum of three hours. I am just really scared. I always feel better when I talk with you all. And I just wanted to let everyone know.


~Jamie~

(((Never Ever Give Up Hope!)))

I know this isn't how you imagined life being. I'm so sorry, and I can understand your frustration and apprehension with the surgery. Try to focus on the children who are already made who need a loving home like the one you can provide, and focus on getting better for a child!

Sorry it's hard. I hope it gets better soon.

Gin

Sorry to hear about the hysterectomy. We will be thinking of you.

Other than the trauma of coming to grips with the notion that conceiving and bearing your own children is out of the question, it sounds like you have everything under control. You have been fully evaluated and have surgery planned with a GI surgeon watching over your pouch during the hysterectomy, so if there is anything that requires his expertise, he will be there to deal with it.

So, the surgery part should go very well for you. Of course, no matter how prepared you will be for it, expect a period of "the blues" for two reasons. One will be the finalization that you are closing the door to your childbearing abilities. The other will be the hormonal shifts you will experience. This will be lessened by hormone replacement, but still there might be some mood swings.

Be sure to keep coming here for support and seek professional help if needed, because you should not underestimate the impact of this emotional trauma. One good thing about the end of this chapter is that you can really focus on adoption processes and a real future as a family!!

Best wishes.

Jan

Hi Jamie

So sorry to hear about this.

My husband and I adopted two lovely children in our late 20s. I have always been told we could have children and that everything was normal - but it never happened and we did not want to go with IVF (I always felt if happened on its own then it was meant to be - but I felt I was pushing my luck forcing it given my spinal cord and other injuries following a car accident as a child).

There is always that pang - but adoption bring so many gifts to your life and the life of that child that you would never know unless you adopted. It's different - but still altogether fantastic.

Whatever you decide - sending you big hugs and strength