First of all I want to thank everyone who reponded to my dating and the j-pouch post. Your advice and encouragement was definitely appreciated.

Along the same lines I wanted to get input on a similiar topic. I was dating a lady months ago and when we finally became intimate she went cold when she saw my surgical scars. The intimacy immediately stopped, she made some lame excuse and I never heard from her again. I am usually a confident guy, I workout a lot, am intelligent but this is really messing with my head. I haven't dated since and feel like I need to hide my scars from the world. Has anyone else experienced such a negative reaction to their surgical scars? I am still kind of freaked out by it.

Sorry to hear that; it's too bad that she felt that way. I have received positive responses to my scars so far. I've found that girls (at least some) find them sexy.

That being said, any girl (or guy for that matter) who bails on their potential partner due to scars is a twit. Consider yourself lucky that the girl is history.

sorry to butt in on men's health but i want to say as a woman it seems worse to have the scars.
we are much more vain-i think.
i never had a negative reaction and i wear a bikini.
i tan, i did have scar revision a few years ago. you can try that after a few good years, it's simple, my ins covered it, hernias are the lumps in the incision line!
my belly is a bit lumpy but foer the most part flat.
you met a loser, lucky for you she bolted!
if you are close nough to get intimate then surely you can have the conversation about abdominal surgery so scars are expected.
don't need to get into alot of details, people who have by pass and lipo have scars too! accidents cause some to have emergency surgery, my nephew had his colon out for that.
women have c section scars worse than mine!not everyone is lucky enough to get the bikini cut!
i have scars on my face, small but visible, my knee(i fell in high school), my hand and ear from a dog attack, life goes on!
my husband just had open heart surgery-wow-a zipper scar. and his leg has a scar from the vein they used.
i don't know too many people who have lived without some scars.
talk about it, open up, women and men have cosmetic surgery for many reasons, look into scar revision if it bothers you.
happy new year

I gotta say... that's just ODD! And, I think you should be glad she let her feelings be known earlier, rather than later. Don't let the door hit you in the arss if you know what I mean! People are strange...

i can understand someone being turned off by the scars, but not to the point that they would end a sexual relationship. thats very extreme.

even still, i dont find most are turned off by the scars at all.

I had a cleft lip when I was born and it was never fully fixed the scar because I said I had enough surgerys so I though lol but anyways most woman ask me whats its from some don't even ask its on my lip and you can't miss it.

But no one was rude to me because if they where I would of said she wasn't worth having a good person like me in there . Glad she did bolt not all woman are that way you just got a loser selfcaring person was all good luck on the next one don't let taht one stop you.

I wouldn't let this mess with your head. Would it be cliche to say It's not you, it's her?! Many people have scars, birth marks, birth defects, bodily abnormalities, etc. For her to ditch you over a scar is very shallow.

I agree with Pix, very shallow and add to it petty.

Maybe you can look at it as using someone's reaction to your scars as another meter of the person. If they really care about you, they won't care about your scars.

Sounds like a loon. Don't let it get to ya. I dated a girl who broke up with me because I didn't order her around like her ex. haha.