I'm 3 months post td and still have no real desire for sex. My wife has been, and is very understanding, but will this get better? or do I need to see someone?

I don't know that I was all that desirous at 3 months post TD either. How are things going? Are you still adjusting and going lots and lots? I think so much focus on ourselves limits our ability to desire sex at times. So, I wouldn't really worry. You may just have to decide to do it whether or not you feel like it. Get the train rolling, if you know what I mean.

However, if you find you have other problems too, or if the lack of desire starts to affect your relationship, you should talk to someone so your wife knows you are doing something about it. And communicate, communicate, about it with her. I would probably start with your primary care doc and let him see if your testosterone levels are okay (blood test). That would be a start.

I talked to a second urologist 10-26-07 and he said that even though it takes a good year for things to get back to a normal state that we (males) need to make sure we keep things going, beacuse as he put it if you had an injury to your arm or leg you wouldn't just wait for it to get better you would have therpy with it several times a week!